Curiosity over defensiveness when we get feedback at home can be profound!!
A few nights ago my 7 year old asked:
“Mom, what’s going on? You haven’t really talked to us as you put us to bed for the last few days… you’re always rushing off.”
She was right. I was rushing. I had things to do, and bedtime did not feel like the connection moment we normally have. But her gentle feedback stopped me in my tracks. I'm glad she didn't just sit with these thoughts. It was the reset I needed.
The next day, I was more intentional.
I told them we'd start bedtime earlier and do some of our favorite things. They were so excited and prepped the scene - from bedroom sign to games laid out, made up games, some conversations cards, stories...
I slowed down. I reconnected. Because of my daughter's honesty, I found my way back.
At the end of the night she said "I'm upset. I'm actually so upset. I'm so frustrated, because I can't explain how much I love you. I don't have the words"
It turns out that intentionality was as important to them as it was to me.
It made me think 🤔
✨ What if we all had/created spaces where feedback was welcomed without defensiveness?
✨ Where our kids didn’t have to walk on eggshells?
✨ Where being lovingly called out was met with curiosity, not offense?
Feedback is not criticism. It’s data! It’s an invitation to pause, reflect, and reset.
Are we making space for that kind of honesty at home?